Three Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

Technique 1: Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

"If you want to gather honey, don't kick over the beehive."
Reflection:I think this first technique is really true all though that everyone does this at a point, but some people don’t need to criticize others by the way that they look ...if those people who criticize others don’t like it when people talk about them they should stop. Usually mostly everyone that I know complains about many things either the phone food, places they don’t like,ect…

Technique 2: Give honest and sincere appreciation
"The big secret in dealing with people"
Reflection:This means being real with people. Be thankful for what they do for you or anyone/anything else. We should be honest. never lie, it makes the person feel bad. Being sincere is accepting what people give you or do for you. We should always be thankful with what we get or have.
"He who can do this has the whole world with him. He who cannot,walks a lonely way."
Reflection:




Final Reflection:
 When you are talking to someone you do not want to give the impression that you are annoyed or bored while having a conversation. When someone enjoys doing something you don't, you shouldn't criticize because then you will hurt the other person and they will not trust you or maybe even like you. I feel that when you are talking to someone you need to show interest, If you want to gain friends you need to show that you are interested. When you judge a person it makes them feel as though you don't like them because of the things they like. What I will do is I will not judge or criticize when I am talking to them because I would like to be trusted and a good friend. I want people to like talking to me. I feel that I would like to be spoken to without being judged on the things that I like. I would like to gain more friends so I will do this so I can.

                    School Break Days!!!
What i did on my breaks was the i went to Arizona to visit my cousins and i had a great time there Arizona is beautiful, i would like to live there someday :). Will i was there i went out with my cousins they took me to fun places in Arizona we went golfing, shopping,and restaurants. My cousins and i went to the movies theaters we watched 'concussion' and 'Daddy's Home' they were both really good movies, i liked 'Daddy's Home' best because it was a really funny movie. On Christmas and New Years we had a family dinner and it was fun eating as a family and playing games. Arizona is a more quiet state its more nice and there's many fun places to go.

                                                            Class/Self Evaluation

                                       Part 1  

What i like about the class is that we learn new things to work with the computers we have fun and learn how to become a better person in life. What i don't like about the class is that-there a lot of people here and sometimes i need to miss doing my work for the day because I don’t have a computer to do it in.

Suggestions:

• Ø    Work as a group for people to get their work done
• Ø    Learn more about using the computer
• Ø    Have more computer assignments

I think I did try my best in this class achieving my goals and working hard to get the grade I wanted for this class. I think I am committed being a CTR person because I always review my goals and try achieving as many as possible, I also keep in mind all the things that I learn like for example: How to make new friends and how to become a better listener and a better person.

Six Ways To Make People like you, If you want People to like you..
Rule 1:Become genuinely interested in other people.

1. "Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."
2.  "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
3. "Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."

Reflection:This rule is saying that in order for someone or something to have a lot of friends you need to be interested in the person or thing you are trying to befriend. Such as asking questions. Also to be very welcoming to one. Trying to be very open minded towards the persons thoughts or feelings. If you are the opposite you will lack friends and or lack social skills. If you do the opposite of what the book tells you to do, you will not have success in having or finding friends because you will not be able to withstand the person or yourself.

Rule 2: Smile

1. "Actions speak louder than words,and a smile says,"i like you. you make me happy. i am glad to see you."
2. "You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."  
3. "It creates happiness in the home, foster good will in a business, and is the countersign (witness or indication) of friends."

Reflection: This rule is saying that having a smile shows that your happy people could just look at you and say, " She looks happy today." without even having to talk to you it shows you are a happy person that others want to be around. if you don't
 feel like smiling just force a smile and you would see how everyone give you a smile back and it would make you feel good inside.Give a smile to everyone and see how happy your day will be :)


Rule 3: Remember Names

1. "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language."
2. "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."

Reflection: This rule is saying that it is a good thing to remember other peoples names, because when you know there names that means you like talking to them and you remember how there look meaning your interested in that person which makes others happy to know you remember there name.To never have negative thoughts over people and ideas. To smile is like a metaphor of always keeping up. To never have a bad attitude to people. Always having a smile means welcoming and gratitude to the person. If you don't have smile you seem to people as a bad person and also as a wrong person. To have a smile you need to very open minded and to never have wrong opinions about other opinions.

How to remember peoples names:

1. Pay attention to the person’s name when it’s said. 
2. Say the name aloud as soon as possible.
3. Comment on the name
4. Associate the name with something meaningful
5. Form a visual association between the face and the name.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

1. "If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."
2. "Remember that the man you are talking to is  hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."  

Reflection: What this rule is trying to tell us that it is good to talk to others about themselves cause how you have problems in live other people do but that dont stop you from talking to others they want to be heard by someone who cares like you want to be heard when you have any type of problems.
 
5 Tips for active Listening:

1. Stay Focus,keep natural eye contact, and be patient.
2. Reallu Listen, don't think about your similar expieriences or think about what you are going to say next.
3. Allow periods of silence, wait till the other person speaks again.
4. From time to time repeat the other persons word or paraphrase it back to them.
5. Understand the emotion behind their words, when you paraphrase also try to express the emotion.

Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest.

1. "The royal road  to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."

Reflection:  What i think this quote means is to talk about something the the other person is interested in like for example is he/she is into basketball then talk about their favorite team talk about who won the game beacuse it is interesting into them meaning they are going to want to talk to you.


Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.

1. "The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature." (John Dewey)"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."

Reflection: What i think this quote means it that when you meet someone new your suppose to make the other person feel important and you it because you mean it show how important they are to you show that your eager to talk to them and become a good friend to them as well.

Reflection: What i think about the "Six Ways to Make People Like You" its good to help you later on in life with developing the communication skills towards others because this shows you what you could do for people to like you. i would apply to this later on in life to get to know other people and have them like me cause i know using this method it will work :)

    Glenn Cunningham-Have Heart

    "Became an Olympian and Doctor"

  Glenn was only 7 years old when he became crippled from an explosion. He badly burned his legs that the doctors told his parents he would never walk again. Glenn never gave up and told himself that he was going to walk once again and he did he became an Olympian and a Doctor. this shows Glenn has a heart by becoming a doctor and helping others and also always having a positive attitude and learning how to walk again. This is a live lesson to everyone because he never gave up even those there was many obstacles in his way.

               "The Six Attitudes of High Achievers"

                                       High Achievers...

1: Make no small plans- Reflection: If you are a big achiever you will make great goals for yourself. Always have a big plan to achieve that goal. Try your hardest to achieve that goal and never give up. If you want to be a high achiever you have to think big. If you think small you won't get far. So if you think large you'll be what you want to be. All of your dreams will com true if you are consistent with your goals in life. To always follow your dreams in order to achieve what you want. If you give up you will get no where and you will just let yourself down. Making big plans you aim high in hope and work to be someone in life.
 





 


2. Do what they fear-Reflection: In high achievements you have to do what you fear to be proud of yourself and be able to achieve something you never thought you will achieve. To do what someone fears is to over come your fear. To have confidence in what you want to do. Also to have a positive attitude towards your fear or someones fear. To have a fear is to be scared in a thing or an obstacle in life. If you over come it you can over come your other fears or others fears. In order to over come your fear you need to stand up to it. Also to not be afraid as to what may come when standing up to certain.

3. Are willing to prepare-Reflection: This is a very attitude that should already be built in you.Although some of us may not have it it is a very important attitude to have because you must prepared for any bumps along the road.This also means that you must be ready to put in the hard work and dedication in order to become something.This quote given to us by Donovan Bailey is a perfect example of you being prepared to work hard for whatever you want to be in life.He is a perfect example of having to be prepared.Bailey was a sprinter and he held the record for the 100 meters race.Of course he did not win this medal/record by luck.He won this by being prepared for the race.

4. Are willing to risk Failure-Reflection: High Achievers are willing to risk failure to get where they want to in life, sometimes is going to be good and sometimes its going to be bad you don't let failure get in your way when you want to achieve something in life. Taking risks can be both good and bad . Some risks may give you high rewards or sometimes no rewards.Although it may hurt if you take risks it helps you learn from them. We have to take risks and not be scared of failure or else we will regret what we didnt do. Its better to try and fail than to never try and be curious about what would have happened. If we fail we can learn from and then in the future we can do it again but in a better way to have better results. We can always learn from failure

 5. Are teachable-Reflection: high achievers are teachable because they teach others how to be a high achiever as well and then you have many others becoming high achievers. To be teachable you have to be open minded and also very non-critical. To be open minded you have to be very positive about opinions. Such as being taught something that is very challenging and then having to do trial and error then finally having an outcome that you are acceptable with. To not be judgmental to thoughts or ideas. Never be rude about a way someone is teaching or giving up.

6. Have heart-Reflection: To have heart you need to be loving. To be very caring about others and yourself. To never do anything bad to anyone or yourself. Be caring to others and to the ones you love. Having a bad heart is to be selfish to others and to yourself. To have a bad reputation. Or to also just be a bad person in general.In the other hand, people that don’t have a heart are considered to be more negative, and don’t look at the bright side of things, and always have bad thoughts blocking their mind.  Having heart is something good because it is something god made us with and we are born with it so ewe can’t really say no one has heart. In addition to have heart means you’re more on the generous side and are always on the lookout for others and love people no matter what.

Reflection: The six attitudes of high achievers are important if you want to achieve later on in life you could follow these attitudes to help you along the way. It helped me be a different person in general. To think differently and to be very respectful. To never mistreat someone for who they are or where they came from. Also to be very open minded in opinions and different view on things. These six attitudes has molded the way I view things now.

Goals:

1. Save up money 

2. pay off my grandmas house

3.Ride the top 10 roller coasters

4. Own a Nissan gtr (pearl white)

5. go hiking

6. go to Orlando Disney land again

7. learn to speak french

8.cook a french meal

9. join cooking classes

10. go visit old friends

11. get at least A,s and B.s in all classes

12. graduate high school

13. go to college

14. go see my dad in Houston (again)

15. go bunji jumping

16. go skydiving

17. get a job

18. help mom and dad do my sister a quince

19. get married(28)

20. go to Lego land (again)

21. go to six flags with friends

22. have a family

23. get a painting of myself

24. dye my hair

25. go to Hawaii

26. go to a cruise 

27. play with my dads friends hockey team

28. road trip with friends

29. go to new York city for a week

30. take bowling lessons

31. shop at Beverly hills

32. get my permit

33. shoot cans with a gun

34. own a tiger

35. buy a star..(own)
36: meet mind freak
37: Be a model
38: show up the on the show impractical Jokers
39: Buy my mother the house she wants
40: Shop with friends the whole day
41: get scholarships
42: own a go cart
43: Be a Disneyland princess (snow white)
44: save somones life
45: win the lottery
46: Go to vegas with my friends
47: buy my own house
48: throw a big party
49: invent a new perfume
50: go to a football game without mom hesitating